Pillow Talk : The Dark Side of Blogger's Life

Bloggers. What's on people's mind when they first heard that word? Some people will like, "Wow, that's so cool!" Some people will just," What does that even mean?" "What you really do?" "You got paid?" "Is that even a real job?" "You must be having fun all the time." Yup, that's some of people's thoughts when I explain what I do. Yes, most of the time I was having fun. Yes, I got paid, but I always give my honest opinion, and I will not recommend something I personally don't like. I'm not a type of person who will receive every single thing that offered to me. And yes, it's a real work.

Look, First of all, I'm not here to say that I'm an expert blogger or what, I just want to share something that I experienced from the last 3 years of being a blogger, that everything is not always looks fun and glamour as it looks like. Every profession has their good and bad side, and I think you guys seen enough of the good side, right? Well, here's the dark side of blogger's life from my point of view:

1. Seniority
Believe it or not, I was a victim of these kind of thing in blogger's world (when I thought it ended in high school). Even though, we started together as bloggers, I was treated bad. Like I was some kind of junior and it's like high school all over again. I was so naive that I thought everyone was nice. I will not tell you guys the details, because I don't want to embarrass anyone. 

2. Mean Girls
3 out of 10 events I attend there's always what we called a mean girl. Mostly, at the events you mingle and made a lot of new friends, but if you're on your bad day you meet that mean girl. Someone who's trying to bring others down or shaming others because she thought it make herself look cool . It's so sad because we girls, instead of empowering each other, try to tear each other, just because we want to stand out and wanting more attention. Not only from real events, it also happens on social media a lot. For example, some bloggers love to insult others who have different style. I really don't understand why, because I think DIVERSITY IS BEAUTIFUL. You don't have to be the same and if you're different, you don't have to insult others that is different than you. We should empower each other, let's stop tearing each other down. If you know Hailee Steinfeld's song, Most Girls, the lyrics explains these situation a lot,

Some girls like to keep their physique real private
Some girls wear jeans so tight 'cause it feels so right, yeah
Some girls, every day searching, keep the page turning
Sleepin' in late cause they're just celebrating life

You know some days you feel so good in your own skin
But it's okay if you wanna change the body that you came in
Cause you look greatest when you feel like a damn queen
We're all just playing a game in a way trying to win at life

3. Bullying and Haters
It's so common here and thanks to the people who support me, I could handle all of these things. The bullies that you see are not only from comments, but also from direct messages. You're expected to be perfect all the time, so on the day when your body isn't good enough, you got body shaming a lot. Sometimes you also got hate for only God knows why is the reasons.

4. Plagiarism
Look, I know, as a blogger, how writing can be rough when you don't have any inspiration. But, you don't have to copy your own friend. I'm not saying I never take source from other website, but when I do, I give them credits. What's so funny is when you copy your own friend who's brainstorming all day to find an inspiration. There I said it. At least, give some credits. This unwritten rules also applies to pictures. It's fine if you took my picture, at least give some credits where it came from.

5. Inspiration
As I said before, I know sometimes it's hard when our inspiration just vanish into thin air. When that happens, what I do is give it some time, give it some space. Don't force to write something or even copy someone just because you're afraid that you won't post anything in the mean time. For me, quality is over quantity. If you don't have anything to write or to share, then don't post. 

Whatever happens from the dark side of my blogger's life, I still LOVE blogging so much. I just hope some people will stop spreading negativity and hatred, stop copying others hard work and other bad stuff. Of course not everyone probably experienced these kind of things, this is just from my experience. And I'm so grateful I still have a lot of fellow bloggers with sincere heart, who support each other, who can be happy with others success and never consider themselves better than anyone else. You know who you are, my dears ;)

Okay, I hope this will give you, guys, a new perspective or reality of my life as a blogger. I will always try to keep everything REAL, that's why there's a pillow talk section on my blog. Of course, once again there's a lot of good side as a blogger, I think you've seen enough of those side on my blog and my social media, guess I spammed that a lot :)

xoxo, bee 

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  1. Love your thoughts. Some of my mind has spoken out Thanks to you. The best thing is just support each other doing what you loveeee


  2. Thanks of sharing your feelings on blogging. I have felt these things from time time. For the most past, I feel the love in our community and hopefully that always wins out.


  3. Definitely Agree!!!
    Seniority, Bullying and Haters #sigh

  4. Pernah mengalami beberapa yg diatas, but ya it is our job, jadi pasti ada plus & minus.
    Keep your head up girls 😉

  5. Great post, great spirit!!

  6. Semangattttt...nice post sis 😊😊😊.. menginspirasi bangett..

  7. Sorry to hear you've experienced negativity about blogging. It's definitely a downer when you go to a blogger event and think it'll be an awesome experience with likeminded people who you're free to talk to about the common interest, only to find that they aren't the nicest. I've sure experienced that myself. Hope it gets better!


  8. Omg you totally speak my world!
    I did attended some blogger events and i am not enjoying at all, The girls are bitching and mean!
    Another thing i hate people think blogger only get paid and write shit, but actually we are really writing by heart, spent our time to take pictures & Try the products, Like me, I paid for my stuff like most of the articles

    This is so sad but i still love to being a blogger ;)


    1. Thank you dear! So glad we're on the same page!

  9. Sucks that you had to experience so much negativity but know you still have supporters!
    Great post <3


  10. I am newbie in blogging,but never have this kind of experience. Maybe I am lucky only met the nice one ;)

  11. This post is so real. I've been to so many blogger events where seniority/mean girls are apparent. I just try to stay positive overall despite how challenging it can be.

    Chanel | Je M'appelle Chanel

  12. I loved reading this! I can say I have experienced all of these too. Blogging is fun but also really tough!


  13. Great post, nice and honest words!!

    xoxo Mon | https://lifebymon.blogspot.co.uk/

  14. I feel each and every words you've write in here ce! I was always want to write this topic from long time ago too. LOL.
    For me you are one of my role model, you put your heart in every each project you've made in your professional and personal life. Keep being you ce, bcos I will always adore you! <3


    1. Thank you so much yu! You're so kind and sweet, much love!

  15. Ah yes, some girls never really do leave high school. But as long as you do you and keep being your awesome self, who cares what they haters have to say #amiright? xoxo

    Rina Samantha

    1. Yes, some girls never really leave high school! Just want to share reality no one talk about, thank you dear for your support!

  16. Love your pillow talk series. Hope you'll continue it.

  17. I am newbie in this world(blogging), I've joined one of blogger group in my region.
    most of them are senior I called. sometimes they guide me how to be good blogger n make creative content. so far I haven't got bulliying from them.

    btw nice post.
    thanks for sharing.

  18. I am newbie in this world(blogging), I've joined one of blogger group in my region.
    most of them are senior I called. sometimes they guide me how to be good blogger n make creative content. so far I haven't got bulliying from them.

    btw nice post.
    thanks for sharing.


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