Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Gym Outfit

If you're following me on my social media, you must know my routine to the gym. Three years ago, I was struggling to gain weight, and my family often complained about how skinny I was. I've been working out for the past two years, and the results begin to show. It motivated me to see and feel some gain in shape and strength.

Maybe, it's only me or my suggestion but there is a weird connection between dressing like you kill it at the gym and actually killing it at the gym. Well, maybe not always, but this outfit thing really affected me (maybe because I love fashion and style). It turns out, this was psychological phenomenon called "enclothed cognition", which suggests that the clothing a person wears can trigger mental changes that positively affect their performance. So, I guess it's a good thing to give more attention on great outfit that make you feel sporty and confident :)

Here's one of my favorite gym outfit at the moment, 

Do you workout regularly? What do you think about this enclothed cognition thing?

Crop Top - Elastic 
Jacket - H&M
Sneakers - Reebok

xoxo, bee 

Friday, January 20, 2017

Pillow Talk: Confidence vs Arrogance

These days, I'm so grateful I've got to meet a lot of new people from many different backgrounds in every events I attend. And sometimes I'm still surprised to meet people with their cockiness. We all know people who sing their own praises or social opportunity, even they often praise themselves in their own social media.

For my whole life, I tried to build my self-confidence, and I realize when I finally ACCEPT the way I am, inside and out, that's finally how I feel confident. So, of course, to be honest, I never understand why some people likes to brag about themselves everywhere, so out of my curiosity I did some research about this arrogance thing and find out the simple fact about it.

Confidence = Self-Acceptance
Arrogance= Ego and Insecurities

Yes, as simple as that. It sounds crazy, the first time I hear it, because there's no way they feel insecure when they keep bragging all the time. But, the more I pay attention to their behavior, it makes more sense. Arrogant people usually view themselves as superior and never admit their mistakes. They even treat others as junior, and they see themselves above others, it's all because of their ego and deep down inside they feel insecurities. Here are some differences or fine line between Confidence vs Arrogance;

1. Condescending Remarks 

Arrogant people are single minded; they either think that they are superior to others or inferior to them. This arrogance may be nothing more than a way to cover the feelings of "feel small" they experience when dealing with someone else. They feel better when they tears others down. I think it's truly a sick feeling to see that behavior, because I feel allergic to people who always think they're superior and better than everyone. Wake up! There's always people who's better than us, and we should never stop learning. 

On the contrary, confident people are high minded, because they can feel good without having a desire to offend or even hurt others. They don't feel the need to brag. They usually see other people's potential and can help them succeed in something.  

2. Active Listening vs Monologue

Arrogant and confident people treat others in a different way. An arrogant person thinks they are better than others, while a confident person knows they are just as good as others. 

Confident people will rarely be found lecturing to others or how they are wrong. They usually show respect while listening to somebody. Arrogant people have difficulty listening to others/ They often exude negative energy and blame others if things do not work out as expected.

3. Ambition vs Ruthlessness

Ambition is not a crime. Confident people enjoy achievement and contributing their talents to the world. They don't feel threatened by others' successes and instead try to LEARN from them. 

Cocky people need to believe that they are on top even if reality says otherwise. This can lead to unnecessarily manipulative behavior as they focus on defending a power base at all costs.

4. Self-perception

Confident people always feel comfortable, because they have the right conception of perfection. It seems impossible to bring them down, because they are aware of their weaknesses and know how to deal with them. Meanwhile, arrogant people brush their own weaknesses aside and cannot admit their mistakes.

5. Communication

Of course, it's not a pleasant thing to communicate with this kind of people. An arrogant person will always try to one-up everything you say. They mind only their own position and make others accept their ideas. That's why people try to avoid their conversations with them because it's not comfortable to speak with the person who is always right. Yes, ma'am lol.

Confident people ADMITS lack of knowledge and they don't try to impose their vision of the situation on others. Their accomplishments do it for them.

6. The Human vs The Greek God

According to psychcentral.com, as a self-confident person, you accept that you are just a human being. You are intrinsically no better or worse than anyone else. You accept who you really are, you have flaws, failures and really bad hair days. You treat yourself with compassion while taking responsibility for your choices, and you learn from misfortune and mistakes. 

Arrogant people can't risk the fragile image in the face of the defeat and run from criticism. They tend to go extremes of either deflecting blame onto others or condemning themselves for being only human. 

Truly secure people evaluate their own behavior and fave their doubts. By letting go of fear, you set yourself up for success.

7. The Origins

Arrogance is usually the result of a defense mechanism used by subconscious mind in order to prevent further criticism. Confidence comes from positivity, optimism and mental steadiness.

Well, that's it. I think it's important to understand the differences or the fine line between arrogance and confidence. Because no one likes to deal with arrogant people. This article is also for myself, so I always remember to stay grounded, yet confident. Try to be confident, because everyone wants to hang around people who feel secure and positive. No one wants to hang around cocky persons. Have you ever dealt with an arrogant person? Can you tell the difference between arrogance and confidence?




xoxo, bee 

Monday, January 09, 2017

Work Hard, Play Hard

My first post in 2017! How's your New Year celebration everyone? Pardon me, because it took 10 days for me to finally blogging again >.< I had so much family events, and some work to do. Cheers to a new year, new hope and new beginnings! 

My first outfit post is so simple, back to casual style which is jeans and t-shirt, everyone has them in their closets. It's the most basic outfit yet never out of style. But this time, I style it differently, it's a bit edgy and rebellious from 90's trends. A slogan t-shirt is a great choice in order to make a statement without saying a word. I paired them with black choker and military boots to finish the 90's edgy look. 

This one was taken on different day, I style it a bit different with wavy hair style and bomber jacket. 

So, what do you think about this look? Let me know your thoughts ;)

T-Shirt - H&M
Jeans - H&M
Boots - Rotelli

xoxo, bee 
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